Have you ever tried to fully understand the childhood of your parents and make sense of how they see the world?
Your grandparents were raised in Japanese occupied Korea until the end of World War II facing untold atrocities and most likely weren’t paragons of parenting.
Your parents were raised post Korean War still ravaged from World War II in extreme poverty. No running water. No electricity. Perhaps in a shack by today’s standards. They might as well been raised in the Great Depression in the 1920s. But our parents were poorer. They moved to a new country where they couldn’t even speak the language to forge a whole new life.
But they’ve made it, and you work for them. And you’ve been raised in the shadow of the trauma they endured in their upbringing. You are traumatized by the past devastation passed on from their parents, to your parents, and onto you.
Do you see your parents as war trauma victims? Can you attempt to place yourselves in their childhood to see the devastation they had to endure?
To better understand the suffering they’ve endured will help us understand why they behave as they do.